I have taught the validation process to hundreds of folks all over the world over these last 6 years. I use it in my personal and professional life 24/7. It saved my relationship with my estranged oldest son. I hear from participants of the workshops how it has changed their lives and their relationships. This is why.

We can’t prevent Adolescence from happening by moving into a house without basements. We can’t prevent the calling to step ever more fully into the world, risking failure and shame. We want to arm our kids with what they need to make the repairs, to get back on their feet, to take accountability, and to find meaning in the sometimes difficult fallout from decisions that they later come to regret.

I’ve looked high and low for the book I wished I had, both for myself and my clients. So I decided to write it. The book fills a deep void in the journaling workbook genre for the inner adolescent.

Being a therapist can be a lonely profession. The work is done in an office alone or online. Just you and your client. You can’t talk about your clients with your friends or family. IFS Consultation Groups can be a place to bring the complexities and confusions to a safe space.

IFS Parts, Self Energy, and Parenting Adolescents are all things that take time and patience to foster. Yet they can offer us a perspective that can keep us committed and patient when things get rough.